Change! It’s scary but necessary to move forward. I’ve written about the concept of change before – it’s a part of life that I have always struggled with. I embrace the fact that to be successful it’s essential to move outside your comfort zone. As I always say, if you keep doing what you are doing, you’ll keep getting what you are getting. But it doesn’t matter how many times I re-inforce that message to myself, I still struggle to accept change with open arms. We are creatures of habit and most of us feel less than settled during times of change.
When I am entering of period of change, I do it in a very deliberate way. Every risk I take is calculated, the timing for each step is planned meticulously. I take comfort in knowing that I am steering my own ship and am prepared for any obstacles, with alternative routes carefully mapped out. While this may sound like a pretty responsible approach, it certainly has its downfalls.
I can be very stuck in my ways, very regimented and I have a lot of fixed expectations so when things are not going exactly the way I had intended or in the way I am used to them going, I get a little thrown. I have always maintained that these traits are what keep me so well organised and able to accomplish so much, but I am really starting to appreciate the importance of being able to adapt, because things are not always going to go according to plan.
Recent events in my life have made me recognise that my rigidity is not necessarily serving me. It doesn’t matter how well planned your schedule or approach to a situation is, there are spanners that can be thrown into the works at any given time and for those of us that are not willing to be flexible and ‘go with life’ the time that follows can be very uncomfortable. The universe has thrown me a few of these spanners lately and I believe that the overwhelming message is – Holly, you cannot control everything so just let go.
This is a scary thought for a self-confessed control freak. It’s also a wake-up call.
Two weeks ago, I wrote about practicing what you preach. I have accepted the fact that I personally need to slow down and become more centred, not just during dedicated mediation times but generally. I’ve been forced to slow down this week, due to things outside my control, and it’s given me a lot of time to reflect. Not only do I need to take my own advice when it comes to being more mindful and present in daily life, but also when it comes to being flexible.
The universe sends us lessons and we can choose to ignore them or listen and grow from them. I am hearing loud and clear that it’s time let go, trust and surrender. Go with life, don’t fight it.
I’ll leave you with this…
“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free